How to deal with a jealous ex boyfriend

Published: 15th January 2010
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Jealousy not only occurs within a relationship but can also be experienced after a relationship ends as well. Ex partners often are jealous when their old flame moves on to a new relationship and often the consequences of jealousy aren't pretty. People can become obsessive, angry and dangerous if jealousy isn't managed in an appropriate way. Here's our tips on making sure you nip an ex's jealousy in the bud before anything gets out of hand:

Tip 1. Break up with him and be honest
When you break up with a guy, make it clear that you don't want to be with him anymore. If you want to try and be mates then you can state that. If you don't because you know he will get jealous then suggest a cooling off period. Then you can try to be friends 6 months after you have both moved on with your lives. Make sure that you make it very clear that there is no chance for reconciliation and that you are unhappy with your current relationship. Leave no room for miscommunication and whatever you say will do, do it. If you don't want contact then don't call, text, email or Facebook him. This will mean there is no confusion on his end and you will hopefully both get a clean break.

Tip 2 Don't talk to him, ever
If he is acting jealous and starts to call you, text you or try to see you in an obsessive manner then don't communicate with him at all. The best idea is to say that you're moving on with your life and to tell him that you don't want him to contact you any more. If he continues acting jealous, don't communicate with him after that as you have explained yourself and he knows how you feel. Calling him to tell him that you don't want to see him all the time, only makes him think that there is some small glimmer of hope. If he still can't get over you, tell him to play some online bingo at ;-)

Tip 3 Be assertive and clear
Make sure that if he is acting irrationally or is angry about the situation that he knows you're not into him. Be firm with him when you tell him that you don't want to see him but also be respectful. You can listen to what they have to say if you want, but reaffirm the fact that you are no longer interested in having a relationship with him. That means no sleeping together after you have broken up, as this will create all kinds of problems in the long run. If things are getting out of hand after you have done all these things, contact your local authorities for help and advice.

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